幸災樂禍和撅嘴的惡性循環
今天Chuck博士的卡片是《幸災樂禍和撅嘴的惡性循環》。你會發現即使在最好的伴侶上,有著這個深深隱藏和嵌入的模式。它可能是細微的,也可能是明顯的。當你的伴侶正在慶賀勝利而你卻感覺不到喜慶發生,這時就發生了。基於我執的需要競爭與優越,我執建立了與劣等,膨脹和縮小,優勝者和劣敗者,輸和贏的惡性循環......這些會將你逐漸疏離你的伴侶,這滿足了我執,而不是關係。當一方有這樣時,另一方也會如此做,雖然它可能因補償而做。今天是意識到這個機制,然後放下它,甚至在你的生活和你的關係上去潔淨它......有個最好玩的一天!(譯者: 賴裕源 Translated by Ian
Lai)
THE VICIOUS CIRCLE OF GLOATING AND POUTING
Posted: 21 Jan 2014 12:50 PM PST
THE VICIOUS CIRCLE OF GLOATING AND POUTING
is the card for today. You will find this deeply hidden and embedded pattern in
even the best couples. It can be subtle or it can be blatant. It occurs when
your partner is celebrating a win and you feel less than celebratory. Based on
the ego's need for competition and superiority which also sets up vicious
circles with inferiority, inflated and deflated, top dog and underdog, winning
and losing… These edge you away from your partner and feed your egos rather
than the relationship. The extent one partner has it the other does also though
it may be compensated for. Today is a day to become aware of this mechanism,
let it go and get even cleaner in your life and your relationship…Have a most
fun day!!
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