療癒要求

【PoV願景心理學】 Chuck博士每日一卡 《療癒要求》

今天的卡片是《療癒要求》。要求裡頭，既有需要，又有「別人得要照顧我的需要」的信念，以及「他應該要為我的幸福快樂負責」的信念。對於滿足自己的需要，我們其實是有矛盾心理的。我們想要需要被滿足，又害怕會失去自己的獨立。因此，我們既想要自己的需要被滿足，又不想要需要被滿足……我們既會有要求，要求需要要被滿足，又會積累抗拒，避免需要被滿足……今天，為了成功，認出你有什麼要求。要求會以你的憤怒、挫折、失望來呈現出來。並且要放掉這些情緒和要求，因為這是不真的，這裡頭沒有誠信正直。祝你有個美好的一天！

HEALING DEMANDS is the card for today. Demands are a combination of needs, the belief that other people need to take care of them for us and that they are responsible for our happiness. We have ambivalence about wanting our needs met. We want them met and we are afraid we would lose our independence. So we want our needs met and don't want them met…We demand and have built in resistance to having them met…Today for success recognize where you have demands as demonstrated by your anger, frustration and disappointment and let these emotions and your demands go as untrue and without integrity. Have a great and beautiful day!!