療癒特殊性

【Chuck博士每日一卡】 療癒特殊性

今天的卡片是療癒特殊性。特殊性是屬於小我的需要，會讓我們渴望從別人那裏得到什麼，要求別人要給我們什麼。有連結的時候，就會有一份自然而然的認可。另外，特殊性會想要變得不一樣，還會願意用長時間痛苦來換得注意力。絕大多數的問題與創傷，其核心都暗藏一股動力，企圖變得特殊，好定義自己是誰。我們抓人來當人質，來滿足我們對特殊性的需要。大多數人都將特殊性和愛搞混了。愛是從不傷人的，然而當我們沒有被特殊對待時，我們卻會因為特殊性而受傷受辱。今天，我們可以先覺察到特殊性，再放下特殊性，放下這份阻礙給出與領受的執著，如此便可療癒對特殊性的需要。祝你有個美麗的一天！

HEALING SPECIALNESS is the card for today. Specialness is an ego need that holds us craving and demanding from others. When there is bonding there is natural recognition. Specialness on the other hand seeks to be different and is willing to go to painful lengths to get attention. At the heart of almost every problem and trauma there lurks the hidden dynamic of the attempt to be special to define ourselves. We hold people hostage to our need for specialness. Most people have confused specialness with love but love don't hurt while specialness is insulted and hurt when we are not treated special. Today we can heal the need for specialness first by becoming aware of it and then by letting it go as the attachment it is that stops giving and receiving. Have beautiful day!!