PoV願景心理學 Chuck博士每月一信 2017-10

PoV願景心理學

Chuck博士每月一信

2017-10

對許多人來講，十月會有份暗暗的渴望，想要回到去年比較風平浪靜的時候。然而，十月會讓你看出，未來這一年2018年，成功有望。只是九月如果沒有完整清除2017年的殘瓦碎片的話，就會影響到從十月初到新的一年的新生。因此，要清理這一年來殘留的情緒碎片。你不會希望有不寬恕的念頭障礙住你、讓你無法更上一層樓的；每道問題的核心，都有著不寬恕的念頭。

到了十月二十號，還有之後的那幾天，美好與可能性的新視野就會出現。十月的前十天，會因為你再次獻身給使命的關係，打造出全新版的生活與關係。這一年出現什麼小我的黑暗，讓你對一切都感到不知所措時，奇蹟事件會將新的層次帶來，將你的信仰恢復。

黑暗事件不會是老天對你的旨意，也不會是你的真實意願。然而，小我卻意圖盡其可能地製造困惑、掩飾、負面性，好打造、強化它自己。儘管，有時這是心靈深處所做出來的選擇，但不管我們選擇的是天堂還是小我，我們都得要負責的。我們是選心靈哪一邊站，從結果就可以看到證據。不過，要是負面選擇造成了負面事件，我們隨時都還是可以重新選擇的。最黑暗的事件總藏有最大的才華禮物，與一場重生。

在這個世界中，我們會緩慢但確實地，從解離獨立，走向夥伴關係；夥伴關係來自我們陽剛面與陰柔面的平衡。我們在走進交互依賴期時，會面臨到，小我是如何用社會建構的現實，以及它所有的自我概念，來作為防衛的手段。我們會建構出潛意識心靈；潛意識心靈是我們為逼退無意識心靈、在這一生中不讓自己看見的一切；我們害怕無意識心靈的力量、黑暗、寶藏。歷史來到了這一刻，許多人的議題，都有著集體無意識餵養的層面，以及人類歷史上留下的痛苦。集體無意識，會以世界重大議題與自然災害的形式來呈現。這曾被深埋的痛苦過往，如今正浮現出來，以求得最後的化解。尚未結束、尚未療癒的一切，如戰爭、奴役、謀殺、強暴、暴政、自然災害，如今都以黑暗能量和狀況的形式，從人類的集體無意識中浮現出來。就如同天氣是地球的巨型平衡機制一樣，從集體無意識裡冒出來的東西，也是地球與人性在試圖要平衡自身。如果我們不回應療癒的叩門，敲門聲就會越敲越響，到最後，需要得到處理的東西，就會撞破門，在我們彎腰綁緊鞋帶時，從背後把我們撞個正著。結果不會好看到哪去的，我們的感覺也會像是受害。儘管即將產生受害事件的訊號早已出現，我們也只是選擇忽略，給自己造成了傷害。

要走到夥伴關係，我們就要放下受忽略故事；我們還是孩子時，用這樣的故事來區隔分離，製造出獨立的身分，好照自己的方式行事。我們會一邊在此生上演獨立靈魂模式，另一邊又攬鏡自憐；而兒時編出的受忽略故事越龐大，我們就越會如此。自憐，是獨立人士極為否認的心魔。然而，這點正是我們來要超越的。我們把父母一方看作壞人，或是雙方都看成壞人，然後讓自己當受害者。然而，潛意識心靈卻透露出，我們忽略父母的呼求幫助，還利用他們來區隔分離、來打造小我。打造小我的基礎，是當時孩子的精疲力竭與「萬骨枯」。而內心深處，我們有著同感、滋養、奉獻的才華禮物。要不是我們害怕閃閃發亮、害怕活出使命的話，那麼這些禮物，以及天堂的禮物，早就拯救到大家了。我們現在可以打開這些禮物，將造成精疲力竭、權力鬥爭、死寂的解離給消融掉，回過頭來，享有我們應得的親密、成功、喜樂。

只要是想要幫助別人的人，就會成為上主的教師。而為了成為進階的上主教師，我們蒙召要放下對自己身體的認同，認識到自己是靈魂，不再對世界有所需要，而是認出天堂的國度就在內心。而我們自以為需要的一切，也都在我們的內心裡，如一份愛的禮物，等著被分享出來。

如果沒有療癒孩童時期受忽略的感受，那等到我們想要滿足過往需要、卻不能稱心如意時，就會造成疾病與損傷。這些嘗試，是沒有用的；尤其是解離獨立後，要領受更是難如登天。潛意識表現出來的是，忽略人的不是父母，其實是我們忽略了父母和伴侶，因為冷心拒絕將療癒禮物送給對方的人，是我們自己。一旦冷心拒絕他人，我們就會感覺自己在生命裡沒有足夠的愛。這其實只是我們給自己設計出來的業力模式而已。我們的內在，仍有著獨立的解離，維持著我們對自身情緒的害怕。而親密會清除掉這樣的防衛，帶領我們回頭穿越痛苦，迎向夥伴關係帶來的成功、輕易、順流。

當我們明白過往受忽略模式中的真相後，我們就會了解，其實是我們將自己的錯怪罪到別人頭上。是時候了，將我們的心贏回來，回到「精彩多汁」、充滿樂趣的全新層次，不再以防衛的方式過活，不再試圖迴避內在早已感受到的痛苦。小我向我們承諾，它會把我們分離獨立時的痛苦給解離掉，好打造一個身分出來，但它其實是把痛苦緊緊鎖在我們的內心裡。這樣，我們就會想要跟成功與親密保持距離，因為一旦成功與親密靠近時，佔到位置的過往情緒就會被帶出來。潛意識表現出來的是，無論我們責怪別人的是什麼事，那都是我們自己做的，只是我們騙自己，製造出壞人角色，忽視對方的呼求幫助。而潛意識的深處表現出來的是，我們抱怨的事件，是我們設計出來的，因為我們要嘗試得到某樣東西，如打造小我、製造藉口、或是其他眾多不真的目標。我們所有的壞人、怨懟、評斷，都暗藏自己的罪惡感。奇蹟課程有一個我很喜歡、非常容易的寬恕練習：「我不會為此譴責我自己。」

這個月，我希望你有尋求真理的勇氣，因為你將發現自己和他人的天真無罪。懷著真理，你就會發現，你的問題都是一種抱怨。而問題、以及你經驗到的受忽略，其實暗藏著你一個吝嗇小氣的地方。如今，你可以用你的同理、理解、愛，來改變這一切。

十月，我希望你閃閃發亮、復興重生，並提高你的標準，到身為神的孩子真正值得擁有的高度。

願你們擁有內心所有蒙贈的愛與滋養，好將這份愛跟大家分享。

恰克‧史匹桑諾

十月 2017

泰國普吉島五天工作坊

NIGHTLIGHT NEWSLETTER

October 2017

For many in October there is a hidden desire to return to last year when things were quieter and on a more even keel. Yet this is the month that shows the promise of what is to come in 2018. Yet if the debris from 2017 has not been fully cleared in September then it can interfere with the birth that wants to happen beginning in October and continuing into the new year. So, clear any last bits of emotional debris from this last year. You would not want to have your rise to a new plateau blocked by unforgiving thoughts, because there are unforgiving thoughts at the root of every problem.

By the 20th of October and for a number of days thereafter new perspectives of beauty and possibility show themselves. The first ten days of October are spent in building the new version of life and relationships that comes through re-dedication to your purpose. When all seems lost following on whatever ego darkness has occurred in the last year, miraculous events can lead to a new level restoring your faith.

Dark events are not God’s Will for you nor are they your true will. Yet, the ego’s will is to generate as much confusion, dissembling and negativity as possible to build or strengthen itself. Even though these choices are sometimes made deep in the mind we are still responsible for whether we choose to side with either Heaven or the ego. And whichever part of the mind we side with is evidenced by the results. Yet, we can always choose again if negative choices have led to negative events. The darkest events always hide the biggest gifts and a renaissance.

In the world we are slowly but surely advancing out of the dissociated Independent Level into partnership, which comes from a balance of our masculine and feminine. As we enter interdependence we face how the ego uses socially defined reality as a defense with all of its self-concepts. We built the subconscious mind, which is everything we hide from ourselves in this life to hold the unconscious mind at bay because we are afraid of its power, darkness and treasures. At this time in history many people’s issues have aspects of the collective unconscious feeding into them with all of the leftover pain from the history of humanity. The collective unconscious shows up as major world issues and natural disasters. The painful past which has been buried is coming up to be finally resolved. All that is unfinished and not yet healed such as war, slavery, murder, rape and tyranny as well as natural disasters are now emerging as dark energy and situations from the collective unconscious of humanity. Like the weather which is a giant balancing mechanism for the earth what is coming up now out of the collective is the earth and humanity’s attempt to balance itself. If we don’t answer the knock on the door that calls for healing the knock gets louder and louder until finally what needs to be addressed knocks down our door and hits us from behind as we bend over to fasten our shoes. The results aren’t pretty and we feel victimized. Though the signals were already present for what came about for the victim event we simply chose to ignore them to our detriment.

To get to partnership we will have to give up our neglect stories that we used as children to separate and make an independent identity so we could do things our way. The bigger the neglect story we wrote as a child the more we are acting out an independent soul pattern coming into this life on the one hand while still feeling self-pity on the other. Self-pity is one of the biggest shadow figures hidden by denial by an independent person. But this is exactly what we came to transcend. We made one or both of our parents a villain and us the victim. But the subconscious shows that we ignored their call for help and used them to separate and build our ego. Our ego is built on burnout and the “bones” of the child we were. Deep inside we have the gifts of empathy, nurturing and devotion. These gifts along with Heaven’s would have saved the day for all if we weren’t afraid of shining and living our purpose. We can open these gifts now and melt away the dissociation that leads to burnout, power struggle and deadness and instead have the intimacy, success and joy we deserve.

Anyone who wants to help another becomes a teacher of God. To become an advanced teacher of God we are called to give up our identification with our body and know ourselves as spirit no longer needing anything from the world but knowing the Kingdom of Heaven is within and everything we thought we needed is also within us waiting as a gift of love to be shared.

Our feeling of neglect as a child if not healed leads to illnesses and injuries as we attempt to get old needs met in unfulfilling ways. These attempts just don’t work especially because our dissociated independence makes it almost impossible to receive. In the subconscious it shows it wasn’t our parents who neglected us that we were the ones who actually neglected our parents and partners because we were the one who refused to share our healing gifts with them in our hard-heartedness. This now leads to feeling that we don’t have enough love in our life. It is just a karmic pattern we set up for ourselves. Within us is still the dissociation of independence that keeps us frightened of our emotions. Intimacy clears away such defenses and leads us back through the pain to the success, ease and flow that partnership brings.

When we understand what really happened in our past neglect patterns, we realize that it was actually our mistake that we blamed others for. It is time to win our hearts back to a whole new level of “juiciness” and fun instead of living in a defensive way in an attempt to avoid the pain that we are already feeling within ourselves. When the ego promised to dissociate the pain of our separation so it could build an identity, it did so by locking the pain inside us. This makes us want to keep success and intimacy at a distance because when it comes close it brings up the old emotions that are in the place where intimacy and success are meant to be. In the subconscious it shows that whatever we are blaming another for is what we were doing but we deceive ourselves to make a villain ignoring their calls for help. Even deeper in the subconscious it shows that we set up the whole event that we have a grievance about in order to try to get something, like building our ego, having an excuse or so many other untrue goals. All of our villains, grievances and judgments hide our guilt. One of my favorite and easiest forgiveness exercises from A Course in Miracles is, “I won't condemn myself for this.”

This month I wish you the courage for truth because then you will discover your own and other’s innocence. With the truth you will discover that your problems are a form of complaint and these as well as the neglect you experienced actually hid a place where you were stingy. Now you can change all of that with giving your compassion, understanding and love.

In October I wish you a shining, renaissance as well as the raising of your standards to the level you really deserve as a child of God.

I wish you all the love and nurturing that you have been gifted with within yourself so you can share this love with all.

Nightlight Newsletter

October 2017

In a 5-day workshop in Phuket, Thailand