療癒要求

【PoV願景心理學】 Chuck博士每日一卡 《療癒要求》

今天的卡片是《療癒要求》。要求來自於這樣的需求：我們期望別人滿足我們的需求；我們自己卻沒有給對方、給自己這份需要的東西。這樣子，就會造成我們的不愉快。我們期望別人給出連自己都沒有給出的東西，這是生命與關係裡數一數二的錯誤迷思。今天，我們的不愉快會透露出，自己正在做這樣的事。我們可以反過來，藉著給出，放下或滿足自己的需要。原因是，在需要之下，我們掩蓋了一份才華禮物，我們害怕打開這份禮物；打開了禮物，我們就會重新連結，並且失去一份小我的獨立。但小我的獨立其實是角色，不是自由。今天，要自由自在，並且允許自己給出，因為給出一定會帶來領受跟滿足感的。祝你有個美好的一天！

HEALING DEMANDS is the card of the day. Demands come from our needs and demands are where we expect others to meet them when we are not giving to them or to ourselves the very thing we are demanding from them. This causes upset in us and it is one of the biggest mistakes in life and relationships that we expect others to give us what we are not giving. Today our upsets can signal where we are doing this and we can instead let go of our needs or fulfill them by our giving as under the need we have a hidden gift that we are afraid to open as it would bond us and we would lose some of the independence of the ego that is not freedom but a role. Today be free and allow yourself to give as it always brings both receiving and fulfillment. Have a beautiful day!!